Learning from nobodies, cold approach scammers and the blind leading the blind

One of the biggest traps today is confusing random outcomes with real mastery.

A guy who lucks into a date or two is not successful with women. A newbie who gains muscle during his first months in the gym is not a fitness expert. These are not marks of success — they are accidents of effort, timing, or sheer probability.

And yet, many mistake these shallow victories for proof of skill. Worse, they start teaching others based on results they can’t even explain, let alone replicate.

The Rise of Pretend Teachers

This problem shows up everywhere.

• In fitness, someone starts working out, makes some beginner gains, and immediately brands themselves as a trainer.
• In dating, a guy spam-approaches women until probability hands him a phone number or two, and suddenly he’s selling himself as a mentor.

The issue isn’t that they take action. Action is necessary. The issue is that they confuse a fluke with understanding — and then sell that confusion to others.

Why Outcomes Alone Mean Nothing

An outcome is not mastery.

• You can get results by chance.
• You can get results for reasons you don’t understand.
• You can get results that have nothing to do with what you think caused them.

If you cannot trace why something worked, if you cannot separate luck from principle, if you cannot reliably repeat the process… you don’t have mastery. You don’t even have real experience. You just have anecdotes.

This is why so many false teachers give explanations that collapse under the microscope.

These aren’t principles. They’re rationalizations — empty stories built on misunderstanding.

What Real Teaching Requires

To teach is not to brag about an outcome. To teach is to produce results in others — consistently.

That requires more than luck or volume. It requires:

1. Understanding the roots of success — not just the surface appearance.
2. Removing personal bias — separating what worked once from what works universally.
3. Creating clarity — explaining the process so others can act on it.
4. Building reliability — ensuring results are not accidents but inevitabilities when principles are applied.

Without these, there may be activity, even good intentions — but not teaching.

The Balance Between Theory and Action

Now, let’s be clear: mastery doesn’t come from endless theory with no practice. That path leads to paralysis. But the opposite extreme — throwing things at the wall until something sticks — leads only to confusion.

The path forward is balance:

• Action with reflection. Take steps, but learn the why behind each result.
• Theory with testing. Study principles, but put them into practice, refine them, and confirm their truth.

This balance is what transforms raw attempts into controlled skill — and controlled skill into mastery.

The key takeaway

So don’t fall for the hype. Just because you see some guy out in the middle of the day, approaching women, flashing a few numbers, or getting lucky once or twice after hours of grinding — don’t assume he can actually teach you anything.

Sure, maybe he’ll get you to take action. Maybe you’ll tag along, rack up a hundred approaches, and walk away with a couple of flaky numbers. Maybe you’ll get lucky, maybe you won’t.

But here’s the reality: these self-proclaimed coaches are usually just as frustrated as you are with their inconsistent results. They have no control over what kind of women they attract, when it happens, or how it happens. Their only “system” is doing as many approaches as possible and hoping something sticks.

Watch who you learn from.