On People Not Getting It (and Mindless Opinions)

Today I stumbled across a post from a respected businessman. The guy’s sharp — multiple successful companies, knows how to make money.
But this time, he decided to give relationship advice. And for the first time, I thought: “What the hell is he talking about?”

His big advice for single men?
“If you want a good, attractive woman, get in shape and become wealthy.”

Groundbreaking, right? Another influential voice parroting the same tired line: hit the gym, stack cash, women will follow. Say no more, Sherlock.

Now — don’t get me wrong. Health and wealth are great goals. Every man should strive for them. But let’s be honest: none of that automatically solves your dating life.

• Money won’t teach you how to approach her.
• Muscles won’t show you how to build connection.
• A fat bank account won’t help you keep her when things get real.

And what, are we supposed to believe that every man who isn’t rich and shredded is unworthy of love? Unworthy of connection? Meanwhile every wealthy, fit guy is somehow automatically deserving of it? Come on. That’s BS.

Here’s the truth: being a good man — one with character, values, and a decent living — is enough to deserve a good woman. You have every right to aspire for more, to go for high-quality women, without needing to flash status symbols.

I’ve said it before: some of us operate in a different reality. We don’t pull out our wallets to attract women. Women are drawn to us for who we are, for how they feel when they’re around us. For the way our reality pulls them in.

Don’t let others sell you the illusion that you’re just a walking meal ticket. As men, we’re more than financial security.

The truth? Both men and women can aspire to share deeper experiences. A level of joy, connection and freedom that many out there are too surface level to understand or even imagine.